The Burger King Incident

“When you hold yourself to the same standard in your work that you do as a friend, girlfriend, student, or otherwise, it pays off.” –Sophia Amoruso, #GIRLBOSS

Man, there’s nothing like being inspired! I’ve wanted this book forever and a day and I finally got it from Target! $13 and some change for knowledge that I can’t put a price on? Sold! Anyway..I’m going to be transparent here for a second…

I had a mini meltdown in the Burger King yesterday. I got to thinking about how I feel like my life after college has been such a bust—started working 2 jobs I’m not necessarily crazy about, I have more debt in my life than I’d like to admit, and I still have so many things I want and NEED to do. And while all of this is going on, the little voice inside my head (and heart) is screaming to be heard. “You have an audience, a people to save…They’re waiting on you!” That voice is getting louder and less easy to ignore. All of the pressure is too much sometimes (to say the least). Juggling life and expectations carries a greater weight than I care to bear sometimes. All I truly want is to help others find themselves, make my parents’ sacrifices worth it, and have my independence.

So I’m walking through Target’s book section with my boyfriend after the Burger King incident. And I come across, what it seems to be, the answer to a heart prayer. I immediately crack open its pages and breathe a sigh of relief. I’m only shy thirty pages into the God-send, and she’s already pouring out a crazy amount of knowledge about finding and trusting self, coupled with sound business tips and advice.

When I find little gems like #GIRLBOSS along the way, I can hear God’s voice saying “Daughter I am still here with you.” I just love it when He gives out those little knowledge nuggets to help us keep going.

Moral of the story: I’m still a work in progress.

All my love,

AM

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Should’ve, Could’ve, Would’ve…But You Didn’t

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You ever look back at time you’ve ALLOWED yourself to lose and get super angry at yourself? Ever start (re-) jotting down ideas of things you want to do only to realize that you’ve already went through that phase? Ever let the dishes, laundry, or any task you don’t feel like doing pile for days or weeks? Oh yeah! Ever notice patterns in your life where you’ve procrastinated, knew it, and blamed your procrastination on everything but who the blame needs to be on?

Well, I can pretty much guess that if you’re reading this post that you feel exactly as I do. Now, this post is not one of pity and condemnation, but actually, the exact opposite. I’ve noticed patterns in my life where I will get so motivated for something and come up with all of these fabulous ideas. I’ll even go as far as bouncing the ideas off of close friends and family members and doing a little research, but then that’s about as far as it gets. I’m tired of that! I’m sure that I’m not alone when I say that I’ve allowed procrastination, laziness, and my emotions get in the way of what I truly want. And that is to be ENTIRELY who I’m created to be.

Inside of each and every one of us lies a destiny, a purpose. You may say “Hmmm…I don’t think I have a purpose.” Lies! The thing that keeps us from reaching our true selves is not the laundry, not the job, not how our parents raised us, but us. It is us. In order to move forward in being our truest, most authentic selves we must first:

  1. Take responsibility for the time we’ve let get away, missed opportunities we weren’t prepared for, and bad habits that keep us from being focused.
  2. Set realistic goals. Jot them down and then TAKE ACTION! This is where I’ve missed it. I get the ideas out of my head and onto paper and then they die there. Don’t let that happen another day! My mom gave me a great idea. Try setting 2-4 goals in 30, 40, 60 day increments or whatever is most realistic for you.
  3. Prepare for the road ahead. I know this is a tough one because it is easier said than done but always remember. Failing to plan is planning to fail.

Look folks, God is gracious enough to bestow upon us innovative ideas, groundbreaking ideologies, and more and we take it for granted. And guys, we don’t have to be perfect the first time we try and we can always adapt and adjust. We just have to put one foot in front of the other day after day, moment after moment. And trust me I get it! Your path is totally and completely your own. Maybe no one showed you how to handle your finances or maybe they didn’t show you how to eat well and workout. But now the choice is totally and completely yours because excuses don’t care. Don’t allow yourself another day to say “I wish” or “I would like.” Change it to “I will.”

I would really love to hear your feedback on this post with ways you overcome your biggest personal challenges that try to keep you from being focused.

All my love,

AM

“It Was Like in that Moment Nothing Mattered”

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Yesterday was one of the best days I’ve had in a really long time. I wasn’t consumed with business, employees, weight training, & all these flaws that I think I have.

First, I started my day at the bank where a once-stranger became a lifelong friend. I then decided to grab me a healthy lunch & head to the beach as yesterday the weather was too perfect for words. I wasn’t intending on staying long. And I didn’t.

It was in the warm light of the sun, the crashing waves, & the oral ambiance of the beach that I finally understood happiness is not a destination, a person, a thing. But it found when you embrace the sweet moments for what they are realize that you’ll never get those moments again. It was like in that moment nothing mattered.

Didn’t want to make this long but just know that no matter how much you worry, live in a state of panic, or chase “happiness” life happens the way it is supposed to. Embrace great moments & learn from the not-so-great ones.

Your Dreams Shouldn’t be Optional..

imageHey all you fab folks out there! I really miss you all 🙂 So this morning I’m at work thinking about all of the things I have coming up: personal deadlines for my blog & business, body benchmarks, getting clothes ready for a fashion show, etc. And as I’m thinking about my forever running to-do list, I try to think of ways that I can be motivated & use my time wisely. Then all of a sudden it hits me! I suddenly realize that most people just like me have goals & things on our to-do list but I noticed I was already making excuses in my mind if I “just so happened” wouldn’t be able to get these things done!

Why do we make our dreams and goals so optional? It’s almost as if we make promises to ourselves & don’t mind if we don’t keep them.

Well here’s a few tips I find that help keep me motivated & making my dreams a priority NOT an option:

  1. Put your dreams down on paper. Write the vision! When you’re able to unscramble the things you have to do & you can visually see what you have to do you’re more likely to follow through with them.
  2. Be realistic. My little brother put it to me simply: don’t make thanksgiving dinners (enormous goals) for yourself to eat everyday! Make small snacks (bite-sized goals) so that you can actually accomplish something.
  3. Take yourself seriously. You wake up in the morning & get there on time everyday because it’s not an option, right? Neither are you dreams/goals!
  4. Enjoy the process. This is a BIG one. Being afraid of the journey &I the unknown ahead will keep you frozen in fear. Don’t let it!

I think the last tip is the biggest reason why we don’t move forward. We’re afraid of what the process is going to look like. But little do you know ypu probably have everything you need to move forward right under your nose.

A Healthy Lunch Idea!

img_0795Hey! I’m enjoying this lovely, tasty salad for lunch today. Eating healthy is a way of life for me but I still struggle to find healthy lunches that I like. But this salad is definitely one of my go-to’s and it’s simple to make!

  • Baby arugula & spinach mix
  • Onion
  • Tomatoes
  • Olive oil
  • Tuna
  • Light seasoning for taste

There’s just something about eating better that makes you feel better about yourself and helps you get through the day! What’s your favorite healthy lunch?

How to Stay Positive when You Don’t Wanna

image Good morning! Sooo I’m driving to work this morning and I can’t help but feel like my life is like Rihanna’s new song…work, work, work, work, work and more work! Since August I’ve been trying to adjust to post-college living and try to be positive in situations that I am less than fond of.

Bills, a job where I’m unhappy, and living away from my boyfriend, friends, and family was making me miserable! (understatement) Here are a few take aways from my process:

  1. Don’t let ANYONE rush you into decisions that ultimately only affect you.
  2. Try to remain as positive as possible even when you’re in less than ideal situations.
  3. Take care of yourself! Don’t let life get you to the point that you stop loving yourself and doing things that make you happy. Things like working out and eating clean will only help you stay focused and feeling better. Take care of your skin, drink something green, get moving!
  4. Only you have the power to change your situation and your life.
  5. Dont stop following your dreams and doing things you love!

That last one really takes the cake for me. Sometimes when we hate things that we’re involved in we tend to get lazy and neglect our goals out of frustration, anger, exhaustion, or laziness. Trust me I know. That’s what hindered me from starting this blog! Guys, I really just want you to keep your beautiful heads up and realize life is beautiful and discomfort is only temporary.