Esteem & Style: Let’s Stop the SELF Body Shaming Already!

Esteem & Style: Let's Stop the SELF Body Shaming Already! | Stop looking at areas on your body that aren't your favorite as problems! You don't have problem areas. This post is for you if you're looking to learn how to style yourself or trying to cover up those "problem areas."

Esteem and style is like the chicken and the egg argument. Does great style precede great esteem or is it the other way around?

As a personal stylist, I’m always hearing others in the industry and even clients talking about “problem areas.” So what exactly IS a problem area? Also referred to as “trouble zones,” problem areas are those areas of one’s body deemed as less than desirable by not only themselves, but by society. This way of thinking is absolutely beyond me.

PSA: There is no such thing as a problem area.

Women’s bodies have amazing capabilities and should not only be looked at objects of affection or sexualization. I think that in order for outward body shaming to stop, it has to start FIRST within ourselves. Our verbiage and the way we talk about ourselves has to change. If we look at our bodies as having problems and areas that need fixing, we are setting ourselves up for failure. This type of language is the breeding ground for why we struggle to love ourselves as-is in the first place.

Now when styling clients, I don’t look to address problem areas and how to hide them. That makes them seem like a deep, dark secret and we should never view our bodies that way. I look to work my clients and find things that they LOVE about their bodies and find ways to celebrate them! If this sounds like something you agree with and you’re looking to elevate your style, email me at iamaquielmiller@gmail.com to book a FREE virtual style discovery consultation!

Death to “problem areas!”

Cheers to new perspective and learning to love ourselves,

AM

 

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My Body felt Like it Was Going to Snap in Half!

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Sooo around this time last week I was driving in my car on the way to my mom’s house when all of a sudden a striking pain in my lower back comes up on me out of nowhere! My boyfriend always complains about how hard the seats are in my car, so I chalked it up to that. But this time he insisted that it was something more. The pain persisted to the point that it was hard to get up and down. Now, all three of my siblings are star athletes and lead very active lives. Once I started telling my baby brother about the pain he told me that it was actually stemming more from my hips which was causing pain in my lower back. It was in that very moment I realized how out of shape I am!

My body felt like it was about to snap in half! I hadn’t stretched or really done any heaving lifting in 2 months. To be honest, I totally felt like a wimp because my body hadn’t been SO weak in so long. But instead of being angry at myself over how far I’d fallen, I’ve resumed my workout regimen. Now, I’ll be honest I hate working out but I have the nutrition part down to the tee. So much so that I was able to drop 25 pounds and keep it off. Exercise is NOT my strong point but after the lower back incident I see that it is absolutely necessary.

My ultimate goal right now is to be able to fit into anything I’d like and look exactly how I want to! But I’ve also realized that will never happen if I don’t do anything about it. I’m going to play to my strengths. I basically have everything I need—nutrition knowledge, a phenomenal support system, and the best athletes on this side of heaven!

You guys may not have those factors readily available but play to your strengths. Here are a few tips that may help you get started:

  1. There are tons of fitness programs and trainers around. You can either try locally or online.
  2. Take baby steps! Maybe you can’t commit yourself to working out 5-6 times a week. Start with 2-3.
  3. Slowly start adjusting your diet to fit what’s up ahead. It’s much easier to exercise when you’ve been eating a nice salad instead of after a greasy burger.

Over and out,

AM

“It Was Like in that Moment Nothing Mattered”

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Yesterday was one of the best days I’ve had in a really long time. I wasn’t consumed with business, employees, weight training, & all these flaws that I think I have.

First, I started my day at the bank where a once-stranger became a lifelong friend. I then decided to grab me a healthy lunch & head to the beach as yesterday the weather was too perfect for words. I wasn’t intending on staying long. And I didn’t.

It was in the warm light of the sun, the crashing waves, & the oral ambiance of the beach that I finally understood happiness is not a destination, a person, a thing. But it found when you embrace the sweet moments for what they are realize that you’ll never get those moments again. It was like in that moment nothing mattered.

Didn’t want to make this long but just know that no matter how much you worry, live in a state of panic, or chase “happiness” life happens the way it is supposed to. Embrace great moments & learn from the not-so-great ones.

A Healthy Lunch Idea!

img_0795Hey! I’m enjoying this lovely, tasty salad for lunch today. Eating healthy is a way of life for me but I still struggle to find healthy lunches that I like. But this salad is definitely one of my go-to’s and it’s simple to make!

  • Baby arugula & spinach mix
  • Onion
  • Tomatoes
  • Olive oil
  • Tuna
  • Light seasoning for taste

There’s just something about eating better that makes you feel better about yourself and helps you get through the day! What’s your favorite healthy lunch?

Sip, Sip Hooray!

 Good morning! I’m so stoked this morning. 1. Because I don’t have to be to work until later 2. Because I’m starting a new clean eating regimen. This year I promised myself I wouldn’t leave 2016 without the body of my dreams or at least be striving towards it! Soooo I always saw the Flat Tummy Tea product on Instagram and always wanted to try it but didn’t. So I made the leap and finally am. Can’t wait to see my results!